Answer one of the following questions this week:
Is it true that hurt people hurt people?
Would you rather be invincible from physical or emotional harm?
Life is unfair. It is unfair to everyone. So isn't that fair?
Some physicists claim that time travel is impossible. Isn't living already travelling through time?
Would you rather have your ideal job or your ideal mate?
Many believe that money does not buy happiness and that at the end of the night someone would rather come home to their loved one instead of an empty mansion. Although this is partially true, in the long run I would choose to have an ideal job instead of an ideal mate. Reasons being that having an ideal job, a job that you love waking up to every morning without any hesitation, will bring in easy money. I would rather work at job that I love and passionate for without having the extra stress that a typical job you hate brings in.You practically will be getting paid for doing something you enjoy.The self comes first and working on yourself is important therefore, having to look for the ideal soulmate should be the least of concerns. Although yeah being in love with someone is beautiful, often times you have to work on yourself first. You can not alway depend on someone else for happiness, primarily we are all our own sources of our own happiness. With an ideal job you can accomplish many things. You will earn work experience, be able to support yourself and most importantly learn how to be independent. Being independent and not having to cling to someone to succeed is important. As a women I choose to break the norm and one day I wish to be able to have my dream job to be able to support myself and make it far in life. Once I have my dream job, own home and savings I will worry about finding my ideal mate.
ReplyDeleteHello Yesenia, I really enjoyed reading your blog! This topic was very challenging for me to write about which is why I didn't choose it. I just feel like I wouldn't be able to choose one of the two options. I would want to be able to have my ideal job and my ideal mate. I do understand why you chose your ideal job. I would probably choose to have an ideal job too especially because I believe it is good to be independent.
DeleteHi Yesenia! I really enjoyed your post too! I admire your independence and strive to earn the career you want. I also believe you should be well aware and happy with who you are before you enter any relationship.
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DeleteI really admire your independence. I also chose an ideal job; however, my reasons where a quite different. While I do think it is amazing to have an ideal mate, I do not think of it as necessary to have an ideal relationship. There are always other factors that intersect with it.
Hi Yesenia, you are correct having an ideal job for the rest of your life would just be amazing something to look foreword everyday. I believe that having an ideal mate is also important because this person will share a life with you, make you happy, and support you with your dreams. Therefore I would think it would be hard to define which one I would prefer over an ideal job or ideal mate.
DeleteI completely agree with you Yesenia. Financial stability is very important. Yes you can be in love and be happy in a one room apartment and driving a hooptie but I'd rather be happy with a healthy bank account and a luxury car and my daughter not having to worry about how her dad is going to buy her the things she needs.
DeleteThank You All !
DeleteBernie , yes you're right! i want to be able to support my children without having to beg the father for help.
Hello Yesenia,
DeleteI agree with your blog post this week. I also believe that you can not and should not depend on somebody else for your own happiness. It would be beautiful to have the ideal mate, but I think that if you love yourself and what you do, that should make you a complete person itself.
I would rather be invincible from physical harm because I believe it is less painful. For example, if I were to experience physical harm on a daily basis, I don’t believe that my body would be strong enough to take this type of pain. People who experience physical harm are usually beaten in a way that causes both emotional and physical damage. For example, a person who is brutally beaten not only end up with broken bones and bruises but they also end up with emotional disturbances. These emotional disturbances can affect people for the rest of their lives. They are left traumatized to the point where they might not be able to trust anyone. In addition, physical harm can lead to injuries that may be deadly. For example, people who have been victims of physical abuse have lost their lives by being badly beaten to death. I believe that I wouldn’t be strong enough to experience physical harm. My body and my mind are not build to experience this type of harm. I feel like I would be strong enough to experience emotional harm especially because it has to do with how well you can emotionally handle criticisms from people and yourself. I believe I can handle them pretty well. For example, criticisms do affect me emotionally but I have a high enough self-esteem that will help me overcome these criticisms. Overall, I would rather be invincible from physical harm because I believe it affects me more than emotional harm.
ReplyDeleteHey Kim! You're right physical harm is more painful and sometimes it leaves scars behind. As for emotional harm you may suffer for a while, but some tend to handle it well and get over it fast.
DeleteHi Kimberly! I really enjoyed your post. I didn't write about this topic because I couldn't decide which was worse. There's no doubt that both are awful. Physical harm can definitely lead to emotional harm, just as emotional harm can lead to physical harm. The choice is just too hard!
DeleteThat's a great point I understand what you are saying. Physical harm is painful and emotional harm is dependent on how well you cope with criticism.
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ReplyDeleteToday’s world is filled with hurt and harm just as much as it’s filled with joy and happiness. Unfortunately, the bad always seems to outweigh the good. I can’t say that all hurt people hurt people, but I feel like it is more likely for a person that has been hurt to hurt others. We see it ever day in the news. There’s always a story about a person who has caused an unimaginable amount of harm on people who didn’t deserve it. Later, we learn that the person felt misunderstood or was harmed at some point in their life. Although it’s not a valid excuse for their behavior, it proves the point that hurt people are more willing to hurt people. Most of the time people that hurt have not let go of what has hurt them. Sometimes they have no one or feel like no one understands them. They live day after day not knowing how to process emotions and grieve. Over time this can make a person irrational and even crazy. This is when the real danger appears. They start feeling a vicious anger that leads them to think that they should inflict pain on others. Other times hurt people just hurt people because that’s all they’ve been taught. If we don’t teach a person how to be kind or treat people with respect how can we expect them to do these things? If we all showed even a little bit of compassion and kindness to each other, this world would be a much better place.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Eleni! People who have been hurt their whole life usually hurt other people. I believe that this type of behavior is normal for a hurt person to do because all they have ever experienced in their life is pain. They believe that other people should experience the same pain they have experienced their whole life.
DeleteHi Eleni! Indeed those who have been hurt tend to hurt others because they feel as if somebody else should feel the same way they did. For example, in a relationship if someone did something wrong its more likely that the other person will do something wrong as well just so they can be equal. Someone will get hurt and it will come back and hurt that person as well most of the time.
DeleteHey Eleni, I agree. Someone who's been hurt before for example someones who's been hurt in a relationship tends to hurt their new partner because they might still be grieving from their past relationship.
DeleteHurt people do normally hurt people. Not because they want to but because that is all they know. It is ultimately up to that person to change himself though. Change comes from within the person that wants to change. I believe that a person that has mental problems probably doesn't know that they do, they probably believe that they are normal. People have to help them out and point out that they have a problem.
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ReplyDeleteWhat does it mean when someone is hurt in general? My definition of a hurt individual is someone who has struggled throughout their life and has nothing good coming for themseleves. This can be that being hurt can be caused by many reasons. These reasons can be because a bad break up, a loved one passed away, loss of a long term friendship, and more. When one of these occur in someone's life, it is something that can effect their well-being, loss of motivation, wanting to get revenge, and other negative outcomes. In society there are many of individuals going through this phase at this precise moment whom feel lost, hurt, and isolated from the world. When individuals start to feel this way this is when it all begins. People tend to seek for others around them hurt and enjoy the state of those being hurt. Also, those who may be hurting at the time find a way to hurt someone they love or someone they have a connection to have satisfaction. By stating this, I do believe that those individuals who are hurt, hurt others. I myself have experienced this in my past. There was a time of my life when I couldn't handle being judged and being excluded from those who I called "friends." Those "friends" did many things that has effected me and my school. This made me want to look for revenge and hurt them in a way that could make them feel really hurt. There was only two individuals who I found a way to give them what they deserved and that was something that maybe I shouldn't have done, but I did. At the moment I believed that it was right and that they deserved that and more. When someone is hurt, they don't think about the outcomes they just think about that precise moment. Believing that those who hurt, hurt people is true.
ReplyDeleteInteresting story. I think that people that hurt others is unmoral and childish. It is important to be happy with ourselves and not be bothered by other rude comments that don't matter.
DeleteHi Claudia!
DeleteI really liked your blog entry and I agree with you that hurt people will hurt others for revenge. I think we have all gone through this phase in our lives but we should never get revenge from someone for hurting us. Instead, we should act better than them and ignore them.
It’s hard to say who hurts who and why. I have heard several people say in the past that people who hurt people do it because they are hurt themselves. So this claim is not something out of the ordinary, I believe many people have heard or felt this way. You can hurt someone in many ways whether its physical or verbally. Either way is both horrible and hurts the same. I have heard stories of people being attacked by someone verbally then they become best friends after. The reason being, that they get to know each other and figure out stuff about each other that they didn’t know before. Sometimes it might just be a lack of understanding that gets people into situations that could have been solved easily. I agree that hurt people generally hurt other people. Maybe it’s to get a rise out of someone or because they want someone else to feel the way that they do. This doesn’t mean that every hurt person hurts someone else. I believe they generally do but not everyone does. Everyone is different and fighting a battle that we know nothing of. So we can’t say that hurt people hurt people, because not all do. We are all different, act different, and approach situations different.
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DeleteI found it very interesting how you have know people to become best friends after being verbally abusive to each other. I understand that they may settle their differences, but I cannot see myself in that situation ever. I do not engage in that type of abuse and would find it oddly bothersome if someone did that to me. I simply ignore them and walk away because I refuse to tolerate that behavior.
I like how you said that it is not always the other person that hurts you but it that you can hurt yourself.
DeleteFabiola, yes i totally agree that the best thing to do in those situations is to let go and walk away.
DeleteJimmy, thanks!
When it comes to having an ideal intimate relationship with someone, it is about compromise and acceptance. There may be a mas number of cases where a person may actually have an ideal mate; however, there relationship may not be as ideal. This situation may be influenced by the way both people involved in the relationship interact. The may not have the best communication because they are more focused on other subjects like work, school, family etc. Therefore, having an ideal mate may not be as intriguing as it may first appear as because there are other factors involved with a relationship. Aside from this, sometimes it is appealing to have a partner that is somewhat dependent on the other, for it allows each of them to further appreciate the other partner. I see it as a team effort where both have their outstanding characteristics as well as their flaws, and they both must learn to adapted to them. Based on this, I would much rather prefer an ideal job as opposed to an ideal mate.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you when it comes to an ideal relationship both sides are going to have to compromise. Compromising can come from a number of different things which makes compromising something people don't want to do. I think I'd prefer an ideal job when I’m younger and as I get older and settled, I would lean more towards and ideal relationship.
DeleteI agree just because someone may have all of the attributes that you consider ideal doesn't mean that they will be happy together. Compromise is one thing, getting along can be another. Two people can compromise on everything and still not get along and be happy. Relationships are hard work and they take time and patience. In order for a relationship to work I think you need to have someone that compliments you, almost like a puzzle piece.
DeleteYes, i totally agree.There are so many other factors that contribute to a relationship that a lot of people don't realize.
DeleteHello Fabiola
DeleteGood post, I agree with you on “it as a team effort where both have their outstanding characteristics” Like they say it takes two to dance a Tango.
It is important to note that during this present time it becomes more convenient to accomplish your most desired goals. The question poses an ultimatum between having an ideal job or ideal mate. Evidently this poses many questions about what true happiness means to each individual. In some cases you will have people that desire a great occupation and other that prefer the best mate in the world. Therefore this poses neutrality among the personal circumstances in which each individual will make their decision. An ideal job is something that makes people happy because it is something they are doing and or because they enjoy. In addition this means an ideal job is composed of individuals that you care about and don’t mind working with day to day. In the other hand you have the perfect mate that makes you completely happy and you wouldn’t be able to live without. This mate is comprehensive and understandings in the daily choices made and will give you no grief for bad choices. It now becomes evident that depending in personal moral views will influence the decision a person makes between having an ideal mate or occupation. From my perspective I would choose the perfect an ideal job over a perfect mate. This is because a job will give me true happiness and provide substantial resources for me to live. This would suffice my personal goals of making myself live happily and in addition to having a prosperous life style that is admirable.
ReplyDeleteI like how you really dug down in the psychological aspect of this question and looked at both sides as an ultimatum. To me this makes a lot of sense because someone would have to be completely on one side or the other and not receive any benefit from the side not chosen. This makes answering this question quite difficult, I don’t know if I could want one more than the other, because they'll both only make you so happy.
DeleteIs it true that hurt people hurt people?
ReplyDeleteI do believe people who are emotionally and/or physically hurt, hurt others to make their situation seem better than it may actually be. I actually think about this often when people in my life do something or say something to me that is meant to hurt me. I believe they do that just to make themselves feel better about whatever they’re dealing with at that time, especially if it’s a random person, who’s rude or mean for no reason at all. For example, today when I was at the grocery store, an older woman who seemed to be in her forties, had no care in the world about anything or anyone around her. I love to people-watch, so as I was getting my groceries, I observed this woman cut in front of people to get her groceries and aimlessly push her cart in the crowded grocery store, forcing other people to avoid her. She inevitably came my way, and instead of adding to her chaos, I politely moved over and didn’t say a word, because I thought to myself that she must be doing this because she’s just a mean person who was hurt by someone, sometime in her life, and I kind of felt bad for her. Whenever I see or hear someone being mean or rude to another person, I always think to myself that this person is being this way because they were hurt by someone else, and their life is already miserable enough that they have to put it on other people to make themselves feel better, and I’d rather not add to it with my actions. Doing this helps me with my own anger issues and helps me not to take my own problems out on other people, especially if they weren’t the cause of my problem.
So Nick are you saying then when people are hurt by someone else the person doing the accusing are not at fault because of transitive hurt? Sorry that might have seemed a bit roundabout. LOL
DeleteI'm going to go ahead and say yes and no. Sorry, I'm not sure what you're trying to ask.
DeleteI agree. This is really sad because it is true. Those who are hurting can hurt people on a daily basis because they want other people to feel as miserable as they do. I don't understand why people like to see others miserable. When I am in a bad mood the more happy people I am around the better my mood gets, and vice versa. I too am a people watcher more often than I like to admit. There are times that I am watching people be their normal selves and I can make faces that I sometimes am completely unaware of.
DeleteI agree Ashlynne, when I'm in a bad mood, I surround myself with people who are in a good mood, in hopes of swing my mood around. I also make sure I don't take my bad mood out on anyone around me who might not have anything to do with why I'm in a bad mood.
DeleteYeah I try to surround myself with people who are going to make me happier not more upset. Unfortunately the people closest to me are the ones that get the brunt of my bad mood usually.
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ReplyDeleteSome physicists claim that time travel is impossible. Isn't living already travelling through time? This is an interesting topic because the norm of the scientific community cannot support the idea of time traveling. It is a bit difficult to accept living as time travel because it is just living in a continuous line and not being able to jump or go backwards in time. I’m talking Back to the Future Marty McFly time traveling odyssey. That movie does bring up some decent points about changing timelines and how, or how not to fix them. It is interesting to think if the past timeline is changed you would have to go back further in the timeline not staying or jumping ahead which would cement the timeline and could therefore not be changed. At least that is the theory. However it could be a sting type theory where the line of time which is straight so you just bend the sting in order to shorten the distance between the two points but still keeping the straight line. Changing the future however a bit more complicated because if you change the future you have just changed the possibilities of changing the past so therefore you have no need of going to the future in the first place. So is time travel possible I don’t think so but I also don’t think that living is a system of traveling through time.
Well if I could be invincible from things I would want to be invincible from a lot of things such as harm, physical, emotional, and getting sick. I would love to be invincible from allergies because these are very annoying and I always get them. In this case I would rather be invincible from emotional harm than physical harm. Physical harm can heal faster than most emotional harm. Emotional harm can sometimes take days, weeks, months, or years to heal depending on the circumstance. I am a very sensitive person this is the reason why I would prefer being physically harm. For example I still remember when my parents would raise their voice while talking to me and I would tear up. I could not resist being screamed at because I would just break down in tears. If I fall, get a cut, or a bruise it will hurt for a moment but eventually it will stop hurting. If I would be invincible from emotional harm I would have a nice, smooth, and harmless life. I went to the 99 The Ultimate Interactive Experience two weeks ago and it was heart touching. There was a scene where a family had an accident with some teens and through a speaker you could hear a baby crying. This touched my heart deeply because I was just thinking about the incident and how bad these individuals got hurt. Especially hearing the baby cry it made me feel really sad to hear him cry and this made me tear. This scene was something I could actually experience and live the moment. I could be a strong person when it comes to making someone feel better. For example if I see someone crying I won't cry along because I know this would make them cry more. Therefore, what I try to do is stay strong and comfort them as much as possible. I would choose being invincible from emotional harm over physical harm.
ReplyDeleteInteresting points. I chose physical invincibility over emotional, because I feel emotional harm helps us mature into better versions of ourselves.
DeleteLife is unfair, that’s something my mom told me from a very young age. I can remember so many times when I’d tell her that something was unfair. I know I got very frustrated because people were always telling me that ‘things need to be fair’ and then when bad things happened to me the reason was always ‘life is unfair.’ I remember frustrated because boys would get to do things I didn’t get to, and I always noticed when boys had different rules than I had, and when the boys would get social passes for behaving a certain way when I would get in trouble for doing the same thing! The answer was always ‘life is unfair.’ I believe that life is more unfair to certain people than others, either because of your gender, ethnicity or just dumb luck. Some people will go through life without any real troubles, where there will be people who struggle to survive, completely comparable people. You could take a group of females born in Bakersfield in the same year and compare their lives, and each one would be different. I think much of the ‘unfairness’ people face today is socially constructed though, and even then the things I felt were unfair growing up would seem trivial to other children in different countries or even in different situations than I was in. Fairness seems to be relative, where I wanted to have equal rights, there may have been another girl who was my age who would have given anything to have my problems.
ReplyDeleteVery well said! I enjoyed reading the part where much of the unfairness people face is socially constructed.
DeleteHi Terra!
DeleteI agree with you that life is unfair and you could take a group of girls from the same city and their lives would be completely different. I hope that every human being gets to enjoy their life no matter if life is fair or unfair to them.
Interesting points. Sometimes I feel really frustrated with the limitations put on me, because of my gender. It reminds me of the No Doubt song, "I'm Just a Girl." It's true that our problems are subjective. I read something interesting a long time ago that basically said that we all pick our obstacles in lives before we are born in order to fulfill whatever lesson we are assigned to learn. I don't know if I necessarily believe this, but it is an interesting concept.
DeleteI believe that life is unfair, whether it is unfair for everyone all the time or sometimes is hard to say. I do think life throws things at people more often than others, and sometimes it feels like you may be going through more issues than the next person. In some ways I agree that life is fair for the reasons that it is unfair to everyone, but life isn't unfair to everyone equally. No matter which way you think about it, life is going seem unfair to everyone. Unfortunately there have been times that my family has lost multiple grandparents and on top of that, someone loses a job, and then our cars are wrecked into almost totaling them. During those times I believe life is being unfair. Some people can handle more stress and trouble than another person, and depending on how you look at it life is handing you what you can handle. Some people are stronger than others and in the end you just have to have the will to survive and strive to be the best person you can be. If you feel like life is being unfair to you, then it's quite possible someone is feeling the same way. I feel like the idea of "fairness" is sometimes confusing as well. There may be some people who have everything they want and get told no once and feel like life is unfair, yet there may be another person who is struggling to make a life for their family who would kill to just have it easy just for one day. What one person views as trouble may not be trouble to another individual, you just ever know.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you. No matter how people see it, everyone may live an unfair life, but their life is also determined on how well they can handle tough situations. No matter how well an individual portrays how well they're doing in life, there are always struggles that come their way with the life they're living.
DeleteWhen it comes to either having my ideal mate or my ideal job I would choose my ideal job. Although having an ideal mate would be pretty nice, an ideal job would last a lifetime while an ideal mate may or may not. I read somewhere that 50% of marriages fail these days so why go all in into something that may not work out anyways. Personally, my main concerns in life are to financially stable for me and for my family. My daughter having a stable future and not having to worry about how her dad is going to pay for something she needs. Women will come and go just as they always have. Of course I eventually do want to settle down one day and marry a woman that will make both me and my daughter happy but that really is the last thing on my mind at the moment. Maybe one day my priorities will change but as of now my feet are planted in what is important to me now.
ReplyDeleteI agree with having an ideal job over an ideal mate. I think it's also easier knowing that you don't have to think twice about what you're going to do, and whether or not it will upset your significant other. You'll have things done the way you like it, rather than arguing about which way may be better. Also coming being financially independent is always a good thing!
DeleteIf you had your ideal partner, then your relationship would last until the day you died. The downside of having an ideal partner is that she could die well before her time, and this could leave you miserable because you guys were so attached. She probably would not divorce you since she is your ideal. With your ideal job, you can get fired or may go out of business. If it's money you are worried about, then your ideal partner could be a rich ideal partner, and then your problems would be solved.
DeleteDude I agree with you man. I think that having the ideal job would eventually lead you to find the ideal mate without even trying to look for one. People need to focus on themselves first and the rest comes naturally.
DeleteI would rather have an ideal job than an ideal mate. Throughout our lives, we work hard in order to reach our ideal profession. It is very rare to find an individual who is working hard to work his/her ideal mate today. Ideal mates should come when the time is appropriate and when a certain individual has their life together with a stable job. People come in and out of our lives only to teach us certain lessons or leave memories in our heart. It takes time to find our ideal mate but we are never in the process of finding them, they come into our lives when the time is right. I want to become a successful pharmacist in a community where I am able to give back to the ones who helped reach my dreams. My idea of an ideal job is where I am happy to get up early in the morning because of the wonderful people I encounter. We work harder at finding our ideal job than our ideal mate and that makes finding our ideal job much more important than finding our ideal mate. I think that when I am settled in with my ideal job, from there I will find my ideal mate who will have the qualities I am looking in a future husband. I hope that whatever life offers me, that it only offers what I deserve because I work really hard for my dreams and my dreams are already coming true which makes me a really happy person.
ReplyDeleteHaving an ideal job should be a higher priority than having an ideal mate. In high school we took a test to determine what kind of jobs were right for us. After we found out the results, the guest speaker told us "You want to have a job that you'll love so much, you wouldn't mind getting paid." Ever since then, it made me have a better outlook on what I wanted to become.
DeleteI would rather be invincible from physical harm.
ReplyDeleteEmotional harm is good for us, because it helps us mature and learn about ourselves.
One could argue that physical harm helps you mature as well, however I disagree. If you are physically harmed it takes away something physical you took for granted, but what hurts the most is all the emotional pain you go through as a result of the physical harm. So what helps you grow is not the fact that you were physically harmed, but it is the change of perception and emotional harm you go through that causes you to mature.
On a less serious note, being free from physical harm would be nice. You wouldn't have to take as many precautions as the average person. In a way it would be like having a super power. I assume being free from physical harm would mean that if something physically harms you, then you immediately heal. Like in the movies.
Overall, I believe everything has a purpose and we really do need both physical and emotional harm. However, by the points I have made, I think it is clear that emotional harm serves a greater purpose to our lives, and therefore is necessary to our development. After all if we aren't here to spiritually grow, then what is our purpose. For my friends who don't believe in an afterlife...I can still make the argument that emotional harm helps us become better individuals. Why wouldn't you want to be a better version of yourself (in this case personality wise)?
I totally agree with you on this. Emotional harm either makes or breaks you. It is up to you to decide what to do with all that emotional harm. Plus, being invincible from physical harm? We'd all be like Wolverine from x-men. haha.
DeleteI was torn with this one! Emotional or physical harm? I feel that living without physical harm you would be able to live without physical pain. Living without emotional harm, you would probably be able to do anything that you had your heart out to do because self-doubt and people's criticisms about your aspirations would have no affect on you. But like you mentioned above, you might not be able to mature because you did not let life affect you emotionally and teach you life's lessons. Hmm...I'm still a bit undecided.
DeleteI had always thought that I was the type of person to choose the ideal job over my ideal mate. However when you think about your future in the more immediate sense and consider how you would feel with the most successful job in the world it is a very tempting life style. But when you consider who you may be coming home to after all of the work is done, you may have no one because you have spent all of your time and focus on pursuing success when real success may come from being happy with your mate.
ReplyDeleteI feel I would prefer to be with my ideal mate. I have spent most of my life pursuing education and job success, but if I were conflicted with the decision between the two I am confident that I would choose my husband and fulfillment with job success and finances would follow. It is a bleak life when you have a great partner and choose to not be with them because you feel they are hindering you from your success. I feel that investing in your mate or spouse can bring you greater joy in life than job success ever could. Not saying that you have to choose one or the other, but out of the two I am sure that I would prefer being broke and living in a small apartment with the love of my life instead of being alone with the most prestigious job in the world. I understand that this is not always such a clear line to other people, but it is to me.
Hi Savannah, I like the way you think! I share the same ideas about leaning more to the side of having an ideal mate over an ideal job. It is true we have spent so much time in school and in our future career that we need to spend some time finding our ideal mate if we haven't yet. Yes I would prefer coming to a warm loving home where I know I can spend the rest of my afternoon with my ideal mate and have the happiest time of all.
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DeleteI share your idea on having an ideal mate versus an ideal job. Just like you I would like to come home and have someone to share my life with.
Thank you guys. I know the question asks if you would have to choose, which would you prefer? But honestly I feel that lots of people can do both without much of a problem. Surrendering your job is not necessary to have an ideal mate and keep that relationship strong, but I do feel that if I were conflicted with the two i would definitely choose my mate.
DeleteWell said Savannah. You have good points and I also feel that many people can do both without much of a problem especially if they have a supportive mate.
DeleteIn my case, I would prefer to have my ideal job than an ideal mate. I would wake up in the mornings ready to start the day and eager to get to my job instead of being sluggish and counting the hours of how many more hours I could get still asleep and still not be late to work. Once the work day would come to an end, I would probably be reluctant to leave my work because I would be so in-tune with my work. If I had my ideal job, I feel like I would be happy all the time because I would be doing something that I actually like, like doing like a hobby. Since this is my ideal job, I would probably spend the majority of my time there, and would not have enough time to have a partner. However, I believe that I wouldn’t be sad of not having a partner because having a partner is not one of my life’s ambitions. If it happens, great. However, if it doesn’t happen, I won’t be miserable about it.
ReplyDeleteIf I had an ideal partner, that would be great, too, but that would mean that I would probably have a mediocre job or a job that I dislike. I would probably have to be a full-time worker, which means about 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. That’s more time spent at work of my life than with my ideal partner. Also, maybe my ideal partner will not have a work schedule that coincides with mine, and that means that we will see each other less often. We would probably feel more miserable because we would know that we have each other, but we would never have enough time to spend with each other.
You make a couple of great points. When I thought about writing about this topic, I chose to have an ideal partner. Why? Because if you have a supportive partner who loves you, it will make any situation better. However, when you mentioned that you and your partner could potentially have different schedules, that definitely made sense. People do spend more time being at work than being at home with their partner. Plus, waking up knowing you love your job makes waking up easier.
DeleteThis is an interesting take on things. I chose to have my ideal partner because I personally feel it would be more fullfilling, but some people feel differently on the matter and want success. Sounds very cool and like youbknow what you want
DeleteThanks Natalie! I completely understand that having an ideal partner would be great: you have someone to share your thoughts and feelings with, you have someone that helps you get through life's hard moments, will love you unconditionally, and other traits you find admirable. That sounds great! However, with me I feel that I am not a relationship person, and therefore, having even an ideal partner does not sound very appealing to me. I'm more of a solitary person, and love getting lost in my job/school/hobbies.
DeleteGetting hurt intentionally by someone is a feeling that no one looks forward to. But when is it to know the difference between hurting the person, or they get hurt because they are sensitive? I do think that people are not out looking for ways to hurt people's feelings, but instead, people are becoming more sensitive about people's opinions.
ReplyDeleteYou see all over the social media websites that many people post their opinions on certain topics. You will also notice that there are thousands of people who comment their own views about the topic, and people just blow up in anger just because of someone else's opinion. Yes, it can come off as hurtful and disrespectful, but what is important is that we shouldn't focus our anger or hurt feelings to attack other people for what they believe in. If they are saying crude things to intentionally evoke negative emotions in people, then that is disrespectful; however, we have to realize that everyone has different ideas and views and that we should not feel hurt by them. Instead of acknowledging that everyone is different and accept that they are not trying to attack us, people get hurt. When did we stop respecting other people's views and when did we start getting offended and hurt from others' opinions? Would this be considered bullying? Maybe. But we need to realize that most of us are not looking to hurt people. We need to learn to ignore the negative, and accept that not everyone will share your opinions
Hi Natalie this is soo trye. Unfortunately now days people hear someone elses opinion and decide to feel like they are being personally attacked. Its really unfortunate and causes seriousbdrama on social media.
DeleteHi Natalie!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on what you wrote because it is very rude to seek revenge because someone hurt you. Instead, we should ignore those people and focus on trying to be nice to everyone no matter what.
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ReplyDeleteAfter doing some thinking, I think that having an ideal mate is what I would prefer instead on my ideal job. Having my ideal mate can bring so much happiness in my life. I can see how some people can think that having the ideal job instead of the ideal mate can be so much better, but what happens when they come from work to an empty house/home. In my opinion, its better to have a person that loves you for who you are, understands, motivates, and is there for you. Instead of a job that brings material things. I can’t imagine coming home and not having the communication and understanding that only an ideal mate could have. Having an ideal mate is beneficial not only for a single individual, but for many generations. The worse thing that I think can happen to a human being is to fill empty or lonely in a room full of people. In my opinion, everyone should look for the special person that fulfills what a heart needs, an ideal mate. It is interesting that today, I was watching the Today show and they were talking about how Oprah Winfrey has accomplished so many things in her life; but she sacrificed having a family. The host of the show stated that even though she feels proud of everything she has done, she regrets sacrificing her family and wishes she could go back. One of my favorite quotes from Oprah is “Lots of people want to ride with you in the Limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the Limo breaks down.
ReplyDeleteYes, everyone has different opinions on which is best for them when it comes to their ideal career or ideal partner. I chose ideal career. I feel that was the best fit for me because I like to dig myself into work that I love. After working a hard day's work and coming to "an empty house," I would be satisfied with the work I accomplished for the day and would look forward to relaxing. I personally am a solitary kind of person, and enjoy my alone time. If I need human companionship, I could reach to friends/family. Also, I don't believe that I would be motivated to do my job necessarily for the money, but more for the joy of doing it and believing in the cause of my job. We all are different, and some of us need human companionship more/less than others to feel happy. :)
DeleteWell said, Veronica!
DeleteI chose ideal mate and I stated similar points as well.
I was torn between “Is it true that hurt people hurt people?” and “Would you rather have your ideal job or your ideal mate?” I leaned more towards whether it was true that hurt people hurt people, just because what a friend was going through at the beginning of the quarter. Sometimes it can be unnoticed that a hurt individual is hurting another one, and it also can be unintentional. Whether others may agree with that or not, based on multiple observations, I believe when someone is hurt, mainly emotionally, they may feel the need to hurt someone else to make the experience what they’re going through. Not only may that be the case, but say if an individual is so hurt they just want to be by themselves when others want to help them… it hurts the people who are willing to help them out. Showing how much they care for the person and will do anything just to see them back on their feet again, only to find out they’ve been pushed away from the hurt individual. In that scenario, it’s more present in a parent and child situation. Although the child might not think they’re doing anything to hurt their parents, my mom always told me, whenever you’re hurting, I’m hurting too. Just the amount of love the parent has for their child is enough to feel the same pain their children are going through. There’s also a scenario when someone is so angry, they decide to take all the anger out on everyone he/she encounters, rather than focusing how to better the situation. I’m sure we’ve all experienced this first hand.
ReplyDeleteI agree that hurt people hurt other people as well, but not intentionally. I imagine people that are hurt feel that life has robbed them from their happiness and they feel like others should feel just as miserable as them. Also, I feel that there are other people that are not particularly hurt, but still hurt other people because of their ignorance. For example, there are some people who are racists/homophobic/(some other bad thing) due to how their parents brought them up. These people in turn then discriminate against those people. I do not think that they are hurt, but just brought up the wrong way.
DeleteSylvia, that's exactly how I see it. In most cases, I feel like people hurt others without them knowing it...such as making others their scapegoat. I agree with people just hurting others due to how they were brought up. If their parents/guardians have taught them well, they'll be able to know how to treat others right.
DeletePersonally, I would want the ideal mate rather than the ideal job. Your job is what you make it to be. For example, there are many individuals who pursue degrees and not necessarily get a job in the field they received their degree in. For example, the job I am currently working at is not the ideal job I want, yet I still enjoy what I do. I do not want to come home to an empty home. I am not saying I need a mate to make me happy because that wouldn’t be true; however, it would be nice to have a companion. The idea of coming home to someone who accepts you for who you are and loves you unconditionally sounds lovely. My fiancé is my ideal mate and he constantly pushes me to be a better version of myself and to do whatever makes me happy. He always tells me that if I’m happy than he’s happy. He sees me for who I am and together we strive to make the best out of every situation we come across. Obviously, our relationship is not perfect and we have our ups and downs, but we make it work with compromise and communication. Being in love is such a wonderful feeling especially when the other individuals shares mutual feelings for you.
ReplyDeleteI agree, while I am a romantic at heart, I don't want my life to be my job. While I can work harder at enjoying my job, something that is totally up to me, having a partner that I don't like or don't enjoy would be a much harder thing to fix.
DeleteI do believe that life is unfair to everyone in its own way; therefore, it makes it fair for everyone. Everyone in life is faced with problems and challenges of their own. I think that it is how we deal with our problems or challenges that make us all different. Some people tend to fall apart when faced with tough situations and give up. Some people stick strongly and do not lose hope even through what they are going through and end up stronger and more successful than ever before. Everybody in life gets handed lemons at one point of their life, but it is what you do with those lemons that separate them from the rest. Some choose to make the best of it and make lemonade and enjoy it. I do believe life is fair by being unfair to us all. It is how we respond and react to the unfairness that defines us in the end.
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